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10 of the Best Marriage Tips Ever!

These are some of the best marriage tips ever, from couples that have been married for over 10 years. If you’re a newlywed looking for easy and practical marriage advice, or if you’ve been married for years and you want to be proactive in maintaining a healthy marriage these marriage tips are for you!

I’ve been married 12 years.  To the love of my life. 

My best friend. 

My soul mate. 

My boogie-woogie choo choo train 🙂 .

Plus, I’m the daughter of two loving parents who have been married for 36 years and have shown me everyday the proper way to love one another and make a marriage go the distance. 

So, I guess I’m qualified to pass along some of the best marriage tips ever.  Tips that I have used in my own marriage, and ones that I have seen in action in other successful marriages.

The best marriage tips ever to have a successful marriage

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But back to me and Boogie Woogie…

We met in high school. 

Our young love survived two proms, my learning to drive (I swear I did not see that stop sign!), my four years of college, his 9 month deployment in the US Navy, a cross-country move, the starting of a business, a few different career changes, two beautiful kids and lots of diapers, and my literal near death experience (during which my hubby was telling me to “walk it off”).

Don’t get me wrong… 

We’ve been in the valleys. 

We’ve had our highs and our lows.  Our marriage has not been without struggles. 

But our love and mutual respect for each other has brought us through everything that life has thrown at us so far. 

We are each other’s best friend – as corny as that sounds.  We love each other no matter what, and we can each be our own true selves with the other. 

He still loves me make-up free and with stinky morning breath.  And I still love him even though I sit in pee on the toilet seat a few times a week.

So, what are the best marriage tips I’ve heard?  What has worked for me and my marriage?  I’ve narrowed it down to the best marriage tips I’ve come across:

The Best Marriage Tips from Couples who Have Been Married more than 10 Years

Tip #1:  Choose to Love Each Other Everyday

This tip actually comes from my Memaw. 

I remember sitting on the corner of her bed with her one day and she told me bluntly “I may not like your Grandpa everyday, but I choose to love him everyday”. 

It’s true.  Sometimes you won’t really 100% like each other.  But you have to make the conscious choice to LOVE each other. 

News flash – Marriage isn’t like a Hollywood chick-flick.  Don’t wait to be swept off your feet.  The butterflies-in-your-stomach feeling will fade.  But, if you choose to love each other no matter what, your marriage will thrive, and your love will last.

Tip #2:  Date your Husband

Don’t just go out on dates… actually date each other.  The way you used to.  When you would put perfume on and fret about which jeans made your butt look best.

Or, if finding a babysitter is next to impossible, then try one of these 16 Unique Stay at Home Date Ideas on a Budget!

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Tip #3:  Build Each Other Up

Be each other’s biggest cheerleader! 

Encourage each other through trials, and cheer loudly and proudly for your spouse’s victories. 

Go, Boogie, Go!  I literally painted a sign that said this for my husband when he was playing in a softball league.  See proof below:

Tip #4:  Do Whatever You Can to Make the Other Person’s Life Easier

This tip comes from the required marriage counseling that we received from our pastor 12 years ago before he would perform our ceremony. 

And it may be one of the toughest to implement. 

I don’t know about you, but when I have a spare 2o minutes, I want to take that time for myself (usually hiding in the bathroom with an Us Weekly).  I definitely don’t want to pile on another task to complete just to make my husband’s day a little easier. 

But, I try to do it anyway… 

I make his lunch for him each night so he just has to grab-and-go in the morning.  I take trash to the dump so that he doesn’t have to do it on his day off.  I even work about 6 hours per week doing his job so that he can have two TRUE days off each week (his job requires a 7 day work week).

We all deal with hardships.  We all have days that we just want to come home from work and curl up in a cocoon for the rest of the night. 

So, lessen the load for your spouse.  It doesn’t have to be much.  Taking on just a bit of the other’s burden can make a big difference.

Tip #5:  Show Love by Doing Little Things

Leave each other little love notes where they are least expected – on his driver’s seat or in the pocket of his jeans. 

Sneak his favorite candy in his lunch box.  Buy that shirt he’s been wanting, just because. 

Celebrate your 1,367th day together with a homemade cake (that says “Happy 1,367th Day!”). 

Get creative!  It doesn’t have to be a grand gesture, or cost a lot of money.  It just has to be heartfelt and unexpected.

And if you’re super NOT crafty, here are some love notes and coupons you can buy:

And, you can check out this post on Nice Things to Do For Your Husband for a FREE 30 day “Deed a Day” Challenge for Spouses!

Tip #6:  Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff

And 99% of it is small stuff! 

Pick and choose your battles, and let all of the “small stuff” roll off your back. 

Is it really worth fighting about what type of coffee to buy at the grocery store?  Or the $10 purchase that he made that you think is unnecessary? 

If you are fighting about “small stuff” like that, then it probably means that you have a deeper issue to deal with, or a larger problem that is bothering you.  Find the time to have a constructive conversation about that instead.

Tip #7:  Carve out Small Amounts of Time Together Each Day

So, this may be TMI (too much information!), but my hubby and I take a shower together every night.  That is OUR time each day. 

You can’t take your phone in the shower, or be distracted by the TV or what kind of mess the kids are making.  It’s just the two of us, talking about our days or goofing off together.  I’ve even developed a sixth sense to detect when he’s about to turn the ice cold water on and spray it in my direction, usually when I’m washing my face and my eyes are closed  🙂 .

Find a way to carve out time each day that works for you. 

Time that is just yours with no distractions. 

Maybe spend a few minutes discussing life in the bed at night before you go to sleep.  Or maybe take a walk together around your neighborhood each night after dinner. 

And then make that time a priority.  In today’s fast paced world, it’s easy to push aside tasks that don’t seem important or productive.  But what is more important than your marriage?

Tip #8:  Know Each Other’s Buttons, the Good and the Bad Ones

Chances are if you are married, then you know your spouse well enough to know what really pisses them off.  Don’t piss them off intentionally.  Duh.

This also includes knowing what makes your hubby feel extra loved!  Find out what your spouse’s love language is to be most effective at letting him know you love him! 

For a link to The 5 Love Languages quiz and for great ideas for how to “push the good buttons”, check out this post on 50 Ways to Show Your Husband Love Based on His Love Language!

Tip #9:  Get Handsy!

This one is for you, Mom and Dad!  If I had a nickel for every time I saw my Dad grab my Mom’s butt! 

Ewww!  I know… you don’t want to think about your parents like that. 

But I didn’t mind.  It was a constant reminder to me of how much my parents loved each other.  That and the stories my Dad would tell about seeing my Mom on the beach in her blue bathing suit when they were teenagers. 

Show your affection physically.  Keep the romance alive. 🙂

Tip #10:  Put God First and Put Your Marriage Second… Everything Else Comes Next.

God should come first and foremost in your life.  And your marriage should come second. 

But what about the kids? 

Some may think that children should come first because your spouse is an adult and can take care of themselves, whereas children are reliant on you.  However, putting your children above your husband can lead to your spouse feeling neglected. 

A happy spouse equals a happy marriage which, in turn, equals happy kids.

So, there you have it.  The best marriage tips ever, from my parents and grandparents, pastors, and dear friends. 

I’d love to hear how you keep your marriage happy and healthy!  Leave me a comment below, and I may add your tip to my list! 

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  1. When my husband and I were married 14 years ago, we both made very clear what we wanted long term in the relationship. After seeing both sets of our parents split up on bad terms, we really wanted to succeed. Not only for ourselves, but for our children as well. We both agreed no arguments over money, ever. I am the one that will bend on this and walk away most times. It really isnt worth it. You can always make more money, but you can never take back the words you said when you were upset over loosing it. Plus, taking some time to think about why your spouse spends so much, or why you owe so much, really gives you a chance to double think how important that may be to the other person. Also, we agreed to communicate no matter what. I dont care if we talk about how many times we peed in the course of the day, or what exactly the meaning of life is. Making that time to (set down the electronics) listen to your spouse and give your undivided attention is so important. It makes you feel good when they reciprocate that as well. There were other things we discussed, but those are the 2 most important. Always treat your spouse as your teammate, as an equal. You are never better than them and they are never better than you. You will get so much more from your marriage if you both are on the same page.

    1. These are such great tips, Melanie! I agree whole-heartedly! Communication is soooo important in a marriage! My husband and I are both self-employed so we have the luxury of being able to call each other multiple times a day. Even if it’s just to say a quick “I love you” or “I’m thinking about you” or just to talk about what’s for dinner. I LOVE that you all took the time to clearly communicate at the beginning about how to make your marriage work. Thanks for your great marriage tips!

    1. Wanda, I am so sorry to hear that! I know people who have gone through divorces, mostly because they were not compatible when they got married. Keep your head up!