You may have heard about the Not So Newlywed Game, but did you know just how easy it is to play from the comfort of your home once the kids are fast asleep? Use these Not So Newlywed Game questions for a fun and creative at home date night the next time you need to save some money on a babysitter!
If I had a dime for every time I was told to make sure my hubby and I still date each other…I’d have enough money to pay for the childcare to go on all those dates!
I know the good intentions of those that tell us to make sure we keep dating long after we married each other. I truly believe that an important part of marriage is scheduling time to just be together, without kids pulling at us or the to-do list rolling in full force.
Yet I can’t find time to pee by myself, let alone find time to go out to the movies or a restaurant with my husband! (Does anyone else see little fingers under the door when they try to use the bathroom alone?)
Being a parent is the most rewarding gift. But we all need to make sure we take breaks. Date nights are key to this.
But what if date nights were easier than we thought? What if we could laugh, rekindle romance, and feel that we are on a date…all while being at home? Even if you don’t want to play Scrabble or your other go-to two person date night games for the umpteenth time…
Enter the Not So Newlywed Game.
What is the Not So Newlywed Game?
The Newlywed game was an American game show that ran in the 1960s and the 1970s. It came back several times in the ’80s, ’90s, and even in the 2000s. In the game, the wives would be taken away from the stage so that the husbands could be asked three questions. Then the wives would be brought back. The wives would answer the questions, then see what the husband’s responses were.
In 2015, the Ellen DeGeneres show had a segment called the “Not So Newlywed Game.” She and her wife, Portia deRossi, challenged Melissa McCarthy and Ben Falcone to see which couple knew each other best.
In the “Not So Newlywed Game,” the two couples wrote answers to questions separately backstage, and then the answers were revealed on stage. Each couple would hold up their signs to see if they matched. If they matched, they got a point.
As someone would expect, there were sweet answers and hysterical answers. We hope the same for you when you try the Not So Newlywed game!
How do you play the Not So Newlywed Game?
We want to make a date night at home easy… the whole point of spending quality time together is to have fun and NOT stress. So the rules for the Not So Newlywed Game are easy, too! And of course you can change up any of the rules to make this game work best for you and your spouse!
First, gather up your game supplies. To play this fun date night game, you will need:
- The 100+ Not So Newlywed Game questions cards – Find out how to print them at the end of this post!
- Two dry-erase boards and markers – Or you can also use pen and paper, but the boards are more like a fun game show!
- Your spouse!
- You can also use a timer to speed the game up a bit, but that’s completely optional. You can usually find sand timers at Dollar Tree.
Then, just follow the instructions down below! I’ve included a few different options for how to play the game, so you can choose which you like best or try them both:
How to play the Not So Newlywed Game with just your spouse:
There are a few different ways to play the Not So Newlywed Game with your husband for a fun at home date night! But the most important thing to remember is that you’re answering the questions about your spouse and trying to match their answers.
2 Person Date Night Game 1:
Here’s how to play the game when you want to answer the questions one at a time:
- Put the question cards in the middle, face down.
- One person draws a card from the stack and reads the question out loud.
- Both people write their answers down on a dry erase board, making sure not to show the other person their answer. IMPORTANT – Because the questions pertain to things like favorite ice cream or first job, the spouse that did NOT draw the card has the “correct” answer (because it’s based on them). So, the person that draws the card from the stack tries to guess the fact about their spouse.
- When both people have written down their answers, the player that drew the card flips their board around first. Then, the other spouse flips their board around to reveal the correct answer.
- If the first spouse successfully matches the second spouse’s answer, then he or she gets a point.
- Then, the second spouse would take a turn drawing a new question card to try and match the first spouse’s answer and earn a point.
Here’s an example:
I pick a question card that says “What street did your spouse live on growing up?” and read it aloud. Since I was the one that drew out that question, I write down what I think is the street name where my husband grew up… Let’s say “Main Street”. At the same time, my husband also writes down the correct answer (what street he actually grew up on). When we both have our answers written down, I flip my dry erase board around to reveal my answer, hoping that it matches what he wrote on his board. And if he had written down “Main Street” on his board, then I get a point!
2 Person Date Night Game 2:
Here’s how to play the game when you both want to answer the questions and earn points in the same round:
- Put the questions in the middle, face down.
- One person draws a question card and reads it out loud.
- Both spouses write down what they think the answer is… So if the question is “What is your spouse’s favorite pie?”, then I would write down “Key Lime” because I think that’s my husband’s favorite pie, and he would write down “Cherry” because he thinks that’s my favorite pie.
- Then, to compare answers and see who gets points, take turns answering the questions about yourself BEFORE seeing what the other person guessed. So I would say “Cherry” and then my husband would turn his board around to reveal his answer… Since he wrote down that my favorite pie is cherry and he guessed correctly, then he would get a point. Then he would say his favorite pie aloud and I would turn my board around to see if I guessed correctly.
- Then, draw another card and do it again!
*You can also divide your dry erase boards into 2 sections (one space for your own personal answer about yourself and the other space for what you think the correct answer is about your spouse)… instead of just speaking your own personal answer out loud.
Or you can even use these squestions as fun conversation starters for couples and just have some awesome conversation instead of keeping score!
How to play the Not So Newlywed Game with other couples:
The Not So Newlywed Game is also a fun game to play with other couples for a group date night or even a marriage retreat at your church! Here are two different options for how to play the game with a group of married couples:
Date Night Game with Other Couples Option 1:
- Divide your group into teams with an equal number of players. Keep husband and wife pairs on the same team, so for instance, each team will have 4 married couples.
- Flip a coin to see which team will go first. Then, choose one spouse pair from that team to draw a question card from the pile.
- Have someone read the question out loud. If it is a question about a “favorite” or something similar, then flip a coin to see which spouse will answer the question (the other spouse will write down what his or her favorite thing actually is).
- Both spouses write down their answers on their dry erase boards… The spouse that is answering the question to try and win the point will write down what he or she thinks is the correct answer (what their partner would say). And the other spouse will write down the answer about themselves (their own favorite, biggest fear, etc.).
- When both people have written down their answers, flip the dry erase boards around to see if the answers match. If so, that team is awarded a point.
- Then a spouse pair from the opposite team comes up to draw a question card and the game continues.
*You can also play the game this way but instead of dividing the couples into two teams, you can have each couple be their own team. The game works great either way!
Date Night Game with Other Couples Option 2:
- Separate the spouses by having one person from each couple leave the room.
- Choose 10 questions from the list of Not So Newlywed Questions (or draw 10 cards out of the pile).
- Read the questions out loud to the people that are still in the room, one question at a time. The people in the room write their answers on the dry erase board or paper, answering questions about their spouse… So for instance, if I am still in the room and the question is “What is your spouse’s favorite ice cream?”, I would write down what I think my spouse’s favorite ice cream is. As you’re writing the answers to the questions, number them 1, 2, 3, etc. so that you can keep the answers in order.
- Bring the sequestered spouses back into the room and ask them the same 10 questions in the same order. They write down their answers on the white board in order, answering the questions about themselves like “What is your favorite ice cream?”.
- When all of the answers have been recorded, go through the questions and answers one at a time. Couples get one point for each answer that they correctly match with their spouse!
And that’s it! You’re now ready for your own game to begin. Read on for some awesome Not So Newlywed Game questions you can use to get started!
130+ Not So Newlywed Game Questions
Before we dive into the Not So Newlywed Game questions, here are a few things to keep in mind:
The questions that ask about specific things about your spouse, like their favorite pie or biggest fear, are meant to be answered by both spouses about the other person. See the “How to Play the Not So Newlywed Game” section up above.
These questions are more fact-based, because they ask about concrete things like your favorite ice cream… I know what my favorite ice cream is, and it’s my husband’s job to try and guess.
The Not So Newlywed Game questions that ask things like “Who is…” or “Which spouse…” are better suited to playing this game with other couples for a group game night. For instance, when you ask who is the better driver, your goal is to match answers with your spouse… and if you get a match, then your “team” (you and your husband) get the point.
It’s hard to say who is “right” when determining things like who spends the most time on their phone, so these questions are more about matching answers with your spouse to earn a point for your team.
How Well Do You Know Your Spouse Questions
- What was your spouse’s first car?
- What material item is the most meaningful to your partner?
- You’re on a road trip together… what snack does your spouse buy from the gas station?
- What is your spouse’s worst habit?
- What was the name of your spouse’s childhood pet?
- What would be your spouse’s dream job if money wasn’t an object?
- What is one food that your spouse absolutely will not eat?
- What was your spouse’s first job ever?
- Who is your partner’s celebrity crush?
- What was your spouse’s nickname as a child?
- How many cousins does your partner have?
- What is the name of your partner’s best friend?
- If your spouse was given $1000, what is the first thing they would buy?
- What was the name of your partner’s elementary school?
- How many kids did your spouse want before they got married?
- What does your spouse miss most about his childhood?
- What is your spouse’s biggest insecurity?
- What is your partner’s best childhood memory?
- If your spouse could choose one thing of yours to get rid of, what would it be?
- You’re stuck on a deserted island. What three items is your spouse bringing?
- If your partner had to live in one season forever, what would that season be?
- If the house was on fire and only one item could be saved, what would your spouse pick?
- How many pairs of shoes does your partner own?
- What is your spouse’s favorite memory?
- As a child, what did your spouse want to be when he or she “grew up”?
- If your partner had to shop at one store for the rest of their life, what would it be?
- If you two could travel anywhere in the world, where would your partner pick?
- What recipe or dish would your spouse say is their “specialty”?
- What is the last movie that your spouse watched?
- How does your spouse like their steak?
- What is your partner’s shoe size?
- What was your spouse’s least favorite subject in school?
- If your spouse had to watch only one TV show for the rest of his/her life, what would it be?
- How many traffic or speeding tickets has your spouse gotten in their life?
- If your spouse had a “free day” all by themselves, what would they choose to do?
- What is your partner the most afraid of?
- What is the most irrational fear your spouse has?
- If your spouse was in jail and had only one call (and it couldn’t be you), who would they call?
- Why was your partner named the name they have?
- What street did your spouse live on growing up?
- What is your spouse’s mom’s birthday?
- What is your spouse’s coffee order?
Questions about Your Spouse’s Favorite Things
- What is your partner’s favorite store?
- What is your partner’s favorite color?
- What is your spouse’s favorite thing to eat for breakfast?
- What is your partner’s favorite animal?
- What is your partner’s favorite day of the week?
- What is your spouse’s favorite holiday?
- What is your partner’s favorite Disney movie?
- What is your partner’s favorite meal?
- What is your spouse’s favorite pie?
- What are your spouse’s favorite pizza toppings?
- What was your spouse’s favorite subject in school?
- What is your spouse’s favorite home-cooked meal?
- What is your partner’s favorite restaurant?
- What is your spouse’s favorite fast food restaurant?
- What is your spouse’s favorite dessert of all time?
- What is your partner’s favorite sitcom?
- What is the home appliance your spouse likes the most?
- Who is your spouse’s favorite movie star?
- What is your partner’s favorite room in the house?
- What is your spouse’s favorite article of clothing?
Not So Newlywed Game Questions about Your Relationship or Wedding
- When did your partner know you were the one?
- What was the address of the first place you lived together?
- What did your spouse wear on the first date?
- What was the first dance song at your wedding?
- What do you think is your spouse’s favorite thing about you?
- Who would your partner say is the most interesting person on your side of the family?
- What did your spouse get you for your first birthday together?
- What is your spouse’s favorite vacation that you’ve taken together?
- What would your spouse say is your best quality?
- The first time my partner and I met, he/she thought __________.
- What is the weirdest gift your spouse has ever bought you?
- If your spouse could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
- What was your first dance song at your wedding?
- What would your spouse say is the most romantic thing that you’ve ever done for him/her?
- Where was your and your spouse’s first kiss?
- How many people were at your wedding?
- What was the flavor of the top tier of your wedding cake?
- What would you consider “your song”?
- Where did you go on your first date?
- What would your spouse say is the best gift you’ve ever given him/her?
- What would your spouse say is the most important part of marriage?
- What was the date of your engagement?
- What is the first movie the two of you ever watched together?
- On average, how many times a day do you hug each other?
- What is the last movie the two of you watched together?
“Him or Her” Not So Newlywed Game questions
All of these questions can be answered with “him” or “her”, or “me” or “my spouse”. These are great Newlywed Game questions to play with a group of couples!
- Who is the better driver?
- Who is the louder snorer?
- Who is more romantic?
- Who has a better memory?
- Who is the better friend?
- Who complains the least?
- Who is the bigger spender?
- Who owns more clothes?
- Who would survive longer in a zombie apocalypse?
- Who said “I love you” first?
- Who is more likely to regift a present?
- Who is more likely to cry during a sad movie?
- Who controls the TV remote more?
- Who is more likely to be late for an important event?
- Who decided on the first dance song?
- Who is most likely to win a Spelling Bee?
- Who is more honest?
- Which spouse is the most likely to get lost?
- Who is a better kisser?
- Who is the better cook?
- Who takes longer to get ready in the morning?
- Who is more organized?
- Who has the best in-laws?
- Who spends the most time on their phone?
Other Not So Newlywed Game Questions
- Would your spouse say that they prefer you dressed up or in relaxing clothes?
- Fill-in-the-blank. A perfect partner is ____________.
- If your partner was to win a competition, what would the competition be?
- What would your spouse say is your go-to phone app?
- What is your spouse’s most repeated phrase?
- What do you think is your partner’s quirkiest skill?
- If your partner could meet any famous person that is still living, who would it be?
- If my spouse could go to our closet and remove one item for good, it would be ___________.
- What percentage of the housework would your spouse say they do?
- If your partner could have one superpower, what would it be?
- Fill in the blank: My spouse is naturally great at __________.
- What cartoon character would your partner become if given the chance?
- If your spouse went on Shark Tank, what would they sell?
- My spouse has more ______ than anyone I know.
- What is the last book your spouse read?
- What is the most unknown thing about your spouse?
- If you had to get a new pet, which pet would your partner choose?
- If your spouse used only one word to describe you, what would that word be?
- If your spouse could live in any other country, what country would it be?
- What one word best describes your partner first thing in the morning?
- How long would your spouse say that it takes him or her to get ready in the morning?
- If your spouse had a talk show, what would it be about?
- Who would your spouse want to play him/her in a movie?
Get the Printable Not So Newlywed Game Questions
So, are you ready to play the Not So Newlywed Game for your next date night? Click the link below to check out the printable Not So Newlywed Game questions in my shop!
Other Fun Date Night Ideas
Want to try other ways to keep your romance between you and your spouse at an all-time high? Never stop dating your spouse with these fun ideas:
94 Date Night Ideas – Tired of the same old dinner and movie date? Freshen things up with these awesome creative date ideas!
Create your own DIY Date Jar – Use this free printable to make your own jar of fun date ideas. Just draw one out when it’s time for a date with your husband!
And remember, to keep “dating” each other after you are married goes above and beyond having date nights.
It means continually showing love and affection for each other as you did before you were married. That may include sending your husband awesome texts, writing love letters, or leaving funny and flirty messages for your husband like this one:
The Not So Newlywed Game is one of the most fun games you can play as a couple. It is a great way to kick back and relieve stress after a long day of parenting.
Going through the questions together will bring out sweet moments as well as hilarious moments. It will also bring out some reminiscing and some reminders of how much you love each other. So try it today!
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