Write the BEST love letters for your husband with these tips from an experienced writer! Just follow this guide on how to say “I love you”, and write love letters that are great expressions of love.
I’ve been writing love letters for my husband for years!
We started dating in high school, when passing notes to each other in the hallways was the “it” thing to do. And then when my husband joined the Navy (before we were married), I would write him love letters while he was on deployments.
And even though I’ve written hundreds of love letters for my husband in the 20+ years that we’ve been together, it’s still sometimes difficult to put my feelings into words (and I’m a writer!).
Maybe you feel the same way…
Do you ever wonder how to tell your husband that you love him, when “I love you” just isn’t good enough?
Do you ever feel like “I love you” is overused? Like those three words have become so commonplace that they’re taken for granted, and that just saying “I love you” doesn’t properly express the extent of your actual love for your husband?
My husband and I often say that “I love you” just doesn’t cut it, because our feelings and gratitude for each other go far beyond “I love you”.
If you want to write love letters for your husband, but you don’t even know where to start, or you’re afraid that you won’t be able to express your feelings of love adequately in a letter, then here are some tips for you!
10 Tips for Writing the BEST Love Letters for Him
1. Avoid using cliches
Cliches are overused phrases, and using cliches in your love letters will make your words seem like a copy of someone else’s emotions. Try to avoid using cliches about love, and if you want to say something that could be a cliche, put it into your own words.
For example, this is a common cliche that may show up in love letters to husbands – “You are my rock.”
But you can say the same thing in your own words without using a cliche – “When I am weak, you step up and show great strength.”
Here are some other common cliches about love that you should avoid in the love letters for your husband:
- It was love at first sight.
- I don’t know what I would do without you.
- Everything happens for a reason.
- Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
- You’re my soulmate.
- I love you more than you know.
2. Tell your husband why you love him, and be specific
A love letter to my husband would not be complete without listing some of the reasons WHY I love him. But think beyond generic reasons that could apply to any relationship.
Your love letters to your husband will seem more genuine and less like something you stole from a Hallmark card if you use specific details of WHY you love your husband, and try to include examples that apply only to him.
For instance, this statement is generic – “I love you because you’re a great father.”
But this statement includes a specific and personalized example of what makes him a great father – “I love you because you jump on the trampoline with the kids in the pouring rain.”
3. Show your sense of humor in your love letters for him
When writing love letters for your husband, try to interject some humor. It’s nice to express your love in a deep and meaningful way, and then sneak in something to make him laugh also.
Kind of like how some of the best marriage vows include funny promises to each other, like “I vow to let you be in charge of the remote on football Saturdays.”
If you want some more funny love note ideas, be sure to check out this post:
4. Don’t use the same words over and over again
When writing love letters to your husband, don’t use the same words over and over again. Mix up your adjectives, or think of other ways to say things that are similar.
For instance, these statements that often show up in love letters are repetitive and boring – “You are a great husband. You are a great father. You are a great man.”
But varying your language makes it more special and unique – “I am proud to be your wife because of the type of man that you are, and I am beyond thankful that our kids have a father like you.”
5. Think of things your husband does well
Love letters for your husband should highlight things that you think he does well, like special skill sets or talents. But again, details are key!
This compliment is more generic – “You’re a great cook.”
But this one is more specific to your husband – “You cook the BEST steak I’ve ever tasted… even better than the $90 ribeye we ate at that fancy steakhouse in Chicago.”
Maybe your husband is a great fisherman or he’s an awesome singer… if so, you can say something about how he should be featured in the Bass Master’s Classic or how you would rather listen to his impromptu shower concerts than Beyonce any day of the week.
Highlighting his specific strengths in a light-hearted and personalized way will make the love letters for your husband feel more authentic.
6. Think of something odd and specific that both of you love
Couples’ similar interests can bring them together and act as a common bond, no matter how odd. And I think the stranger, the better!
Most people like chocolate chip cookies and going to the movies, but go deeper than that and think about your shared interests that are more unique.
For instance, this statement could apply to any couple – “You share my love of dessert.”
But this one shows common interests that only the two of us have – “You share my love of goat cheese and 3:00pm showers.” (Anyone else love goat cheese and taking showers in the middle of the afternoon?!)
Once again, you’re personalizing your love letters for your husband using examples that are specific for your relationship.
7. Think of how you are different from each other and why that’s important
You know the old saying “Opposites attract”? Well, that can be a strength in your relationship. If your husband’s qualities and personality traits compliment yours, then tell him in your love letter.
You could say something like:
“Our differences compliment each other in the best way possible.”
And then give specific examples of how those differences make you a perfect match.
For instance, my husband is an extrovert but I am an introvert. So at parties, he can carry the conversations for both of us when all I want to do is hide behind him. Also, I can’t cook worth a darn, but he was an Executive Chef… so if it wasn’t for his kitchen skills, we would probably be eating microwave dinners most nights.
Think about what contrasting but complimentary qualities you and your husband have and include those in your love letters for him.
8. Point out your own flaws
Your husband loves you at your best AND at your worst, and that unconditional love should be celebrated in your love letters. Show vulnerability and point out your own flaws, thanking your husband for loving you through it all.
For instance, you could say something like:
“I love you because you love me… even though my hair is always in a messy bun and I make a crappy cup of coffee.”
Here’s another funny example of pointing out your own flaws in a cute and romantic text message to your husband:
9. Make him feel like a man
Even though I am a strong woman with my own ideas and opinions, I still believe that it’s important to let your husband feel like the man in the relationship.
Yes, I do manage all of our family’s finances and I’m the chief daily scheduler for our family (I tell my husband that I do the thinking for him!), but I still take care to respect my husband as a man.
If that is important to you also, then you can use your love letters for your husband to say something like this, changing the details to accentuate the masculine qualities that he has:
“I love that you can change a tire and operate a power tool. And I love that you can fix our leaky hot water heater and build the most beautiful coffee table from scratch.”
10. Don’t be afraid to bring up your hardships
Love can be difficult, and most couples go through hardships. But conquering those challenges together can make your marriage stronger. Don’t be afraid to bring up those difficult times in your life, and express your gratitude that you stood by each other.
Alternatives to Writing Love Letters for Your Husband
Yes, love letters are nice, but you don’t always have to resort to the traditional pen and paper love letter to show your husband that you love him.
Today there are SO MANY different ways to say I love you. Here are some other ideas for how to express love to your husband:
Send a loving text message
Sometimes you don’t want to write a long love letter to your husband, and you’d rather just send a quick text to put a smile on his face. You can still express love through a great text message any time of the day, like when he’s at work and you want to let him know that you’re thinking about him.
Or, you could even just send him a picture of the two of you, like this one that I sent my husband recently… a picture taken on our wedding day 15 years ago that perfectly sums up our relationship:
Check out this post for 31 great funny, romantic, and flirty text messages to send your husband!
Leave a funny love note for your husband
If you don’t want to write a long love letter for him, then just leave a short and sweet love note.
You can drop a simple love note in his lunch box or his gym bag or leave a post it note on his steering wheel so he gets it when he leaves for work in the morning.
Go HERE for Funny and Flirty Love Notes to Leave for Your Husband, like this one:
Consider his Love Language
People respond differently to expressions of love, and one person could feel loved more by a gift/note/action than another person would. In fact, Gary Chapman wrote an entire best-selling book on The Five Love Languages that explains just that.
So it’s important that you’re expressing your feelings in a way that makes your husband feel loved.
For specific ideas on how to show love for each of the five Love Languages, check out this post: 50 Ways to Show Your Husband that You Love Him – Based on His Love Language!
I hope this post makes writing love letters for your husband a little less intimidating. Just remember to avoid cliches, be specific, and write from the heart and you’ll end up with a love letter for him that’s better than any Hallmark card!
Do you write love letters? Or do you show expressions of love in a different way? Leave me a comment below. I would LOVE to hear from you!
And happy nesting!