151 Pillow Talk Questions for Couples

Do you and your spouse often feel like two ships passing in the night without any real time to connect each day? These pillow talk questions for couples are a great way to create space every night for authentic conversation to bring you closer to the one you love!

Some of the best quality time that I spend with my husband is when we’re lying in bed after we’ve watched our favorite shows on Netflix and turned off the TV.

As we’re lying in the dark in silence, we start talking about something completely random, like where we want to go on vacation with the kids next summer, etc…

Maybe it’s because there are absolutely zero distractions, but some of our deepest conversations have taken place when we’re lying in bed having some good ol’ pillow talk. 🙂

There aren’t many spaces for couples to have genuine conversations anymore, even less so if kids are in the picture. That’s just the way the cookie crumbles, my friends. So, we have to take the moments where we can get them!

That’s why I’ve come up with this Pillow Talk Questions for Couples Jar you can make with just a few household items. It’s the perfect way to reconnect with your significant other after a long day, and you’ll learn more about each other in the process!

Why Pillow Talk is Vital to Your Marriage

When you hear the words “pillow talk,” you probably think of those intimate conversations you have with your spouse after sex. But did you know that you can have pillow talk without physical intimacy? It’s true!

Pillow talk for couples can happen as you’re drifting off to sleep, when you wake up in the morning, in the middle of the night, or after you’re intimate – and there are so many benefits to your marriage! Here are just a few:

Helps you feel more connected

A major benefit of pillow talk is that it helps you prioritize your relationship with your spouse and focus on becoming more connected. As you go through the pillow talk questions, your conversations actually generate oxytocin, better known as the love hormone.

Higher levels of oxytocin improve our overall sense of happiness, and results from a 2014 study showed that couples who regularly engaged in pillow talk and cuddling reported higher relationship satisfaction than those who didn’t.

Reduces distractions

Intentionally spending quality time with your spouse also eliminates distractions. After all, it’s hard to answer pillow talk questions while you’re also playing Candy Crush on your phone. In fact, my husband and I have a pretty strict No Phones in Bed rule, and we stick to it!

Now, if you have kids, you know that someone is going to tiptoe in your room wanting a last-minute glass of water, hug, bedtime story, the list goes on…but in general, setting aside a designated time for pillow talk means you get to focus on each other and put everything else aside.

Provides a safe space for thoughts and emotions

A final key benefit of pillow talk for couples is that it provides a relaxed, loving, and accepting atmosphere where you both can express yourselves without fear of being judged or laughed at for something that happened in the past. Now, if my husband dressed up as a hotdog for Halloween in college, I might give him a hard time for that, but I want to stress that it’s in a loving way!

151 Pillow Talk Questions for Better Bedtime Convos

Download your own copy of these FREE printable pillow talk questions at the end of this post!

What is the one thing you wish you did better?
Were you ever sent to the principal’s office as a kid? If so, why?
What is your most embarrassing moment?
What does your dream day in retirement look like?
What is one thing that you wish you knew how to do?
If a genie granted you three wishes, what would you wish for?
If you could switch places with one person for a day, who would it be and why?
If you could only keep 5 of your Facebook friends, who would they be?
What is your favorite tradition from your childhood?
What is the best gift you’ve ever received?
Do you have a personal motto that you live by?
If you could have dinner with one person, who would it be and why?
What is the kindest thing you have ever done for someone?
What physical feature of yours makes you the most self-conscious?
If you could pick any job in the world to do, what would it be (if $ wasn’t a factor)?
Where do you want to be buried when you die? Or where do you want your ashes scattered?
Describe yourself in three words.
Describe me in three words.
What did you want to be when you were a child?
What is your happiest childhood memory?
What would you say is your biggest strength?
What would you say is your biggest weakness?
When are you the happiest?
What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done?
What has been your favorite memory of our time together?
If you could live one day over and over again for the rest of your life, which day would it be and why?
What is your biggest fear in life?
What is your biggest regret?
What is your biggest secret?
What made you first fall in love with me?
When was the last time you cried and why?
What do you love the most about me?
How do I make you a better person?
How do you think you make me a better person?
What is one thing that you’ve done that you would never want printed in the newspaper for the world to see?
What do you want your legacy to be? What do you want people to remember about you?
What is one thing that you wish you could change about your physical appearance?
What is one thing that you would change about your personality?
What physical feature do you love most about me?
Favorite sexual position? You can’t say “all of them.”
What is your favorite part of your body for me to touch?
What is one thing you would change about our sex life?
One thing that you want to try in the bedroom that we haven’t done yet?
What is your wildest fantasy?
What’s an instant turn-on for you?
If I had to cook one meal for you for the rest of our lives, what would you want it to be?
What is the one thing you wish I did differently as a Mom/Dad?
What is the one thing that I do that drives you the most nuts?
When do you feel most loved?
What is one present that I’ve given you that you secretly hated?
What are two things I can do to make you feel more loved?
What stresses you out the most?
What do you want for us in 5 years?
Where do you see us in 10 years?
What do you want our life to look like in 20 years?
What is one household chore that you wish you never had to do again?
What can I do for you to make your life easier?
If you were a stripper, what would your stripper name be?
If we could live anywhere else on Earth, where would it be?
What is the one nightmare you remember from your childhood?
What is the #I thing on your bucket list?
If you could only use 2 beauty/toiletry products for the rest of your life, what would they be?
If we could do one home remodeling project, what would you want to do?
If the house was on fire and you could save only 3 things (pets and family members not included), what would you save?
If you could choose your own name, what would you choose?
If you had to sing karaoke, what song would you choose?
Where would you want to go on vacation (if $ wasn’t a factor)?
What was the first concert you ever went to?
What are the 5 items you would want if you were trapped on a deserted island (no boats/flair guns allowed!)?
Who is your celebrity crush?
Someone gives you $1,000, what do you do with it?
Someone gives you $100,00, what do you do with it?
Someone gives you $1,000,000, what do you do with it?
What actor would you want to play you in a movie?
What is your hidden talent?
If you could trade places with one character from a VT sitcom, who would ti be?
If our marriage was a country song, what would the title be?
What is the weirdest food you’ve ever eaten? Did you like it?
What is the best dream that you’ve had recently?
If you were forced to get a tattoo, what would it be?
If you had to drink one beverage for the rest of your life, what would ti be?
What is your all-time favorite song?
What is your favorite fair food?
What is your favorite dessert?
What is your favorite pizza restaurant?
What is your dream car?
What is your favorite cereal?
What is your favorite ice cream flavor?
Who is your all-time favorite sports team?
What is your favorite fruit?
Of all of the restaurants that we’ve been to together, which is your favorite?
What is your favorite Halloween costume from childhood?
What is your favorite vegetable?
What is your favorite movie?
What was your favorite subject in school?
What was your favorite movie snack?
Who was your favorite TV character?
What is your favorite thing to do on a date?
What is your favorite part of the day?
Who was your favorite teacher in school, and why?
What does your perfect Saturday look like — sun up to sun down?
What does your perfect Sunday morning look like?
If you could do a moment over today, what would it be and why?
What are you most grateful for today?
When was the last time you got really excited about something?
When was the last time you were really nervous about something?
What was something I did today that made you happy?
What was the most frustrating thing about your day today?
What’s one thing you learned today?
What’s a tough decision you’ve had to make lately, and how did it make you feel?
What are 3 things our dream house would have in it?
Where is someplace you’d like to travel someday?
If you won the lottery, what would you spend the money on?
If you could know one thing about your future, what would it be?
What’s one name you don’t think anyone should pick for their pet?
What advice would you give your younger self if you could travel back in time?
What is a skill or talent you wish you had?
Would you rather be able to travel to the future or the past?
If you knew the world was going to end tomorrow, how would you want to spend our last day together?
What would be the perfect theme song for our family?
If our family could travel anywhere for a year, where would you want to go?
What memories of our family bring a smile to your face?
What is something you see that reminds you of me?
How would you spend tomorrow if you had unlimited funds?
If you could learn any foreign language instantly, which one would you choose and why?
What’s your favorite non-physical quality about me?
How do you prefer to be shown affection?
What’s something different about us that you love?
What is one thing we have in common?
Where else in the house do you want to have sex besides the bedroom?
What would you write on my tombstone if I passed away before you?
How would you describe me to someone who has never met me?
If we got another pet, what would it be, and what would you name it?
If you could wear one outfit every day for a year, what would it be?
If you were stranded in the wilderness completely naked, what one item would you want to have with you and why?
If someone offered us round-trip plane tickets to anywhere, where would you like to go?
What’s your favorite tradition that we’ve started as a family?
If you could change one thing about how you were raised, what would you change and why?
Who is a family member (immediate or extended) that you most relate to and why?
What’s something you enjoyed doing as a kid that you don’t do now?
What’s a smell that reminds you of your childhood?
What was your favorite class in school and how did it impact your life?
How are you different from the person you were in high school/college?
Who was your favorite movie character when you were growing up?
What’s an ordinary thing I do that you find attractive?
What’s something that you’d like to know but are scared to ask me?
What was a turning point in your life that made you change for the better?
If you could go back in time and say you’re sorry to one person, who would it be?
When do you feel totally out of your comfort zone?
What is something you think is always worth splurging money on?
What do you think is never worth spending extra money on?

husband and wife laying in bed and talking

How to Make a Pillow Talk Questions Jar

A pillow talk questions for couples jar is very similar to my date night jar, and it’s super simple to make!

You can either fill a jar with popsicle sticks that have the questions written or glued onto them, or to save some time you can just use the free printable list of pillow talk questions down below and print them on card stock. Then, randomly draw a question out each night for some quality pillow talk time!

Just follow these steps to make your own questions jar:

printable pillow talk questions on white card stock, mason jar, and paper trimmer

Step 1: Print a list of pillow talk questions – You can download the free printable list of pillow talk questions here! Or, if you like the look of your own handwriting, you can write them all down yourself on strips of paper.
Step 2: Gather your supplies – Here are the things you will need:
- mason jar or other medium-sized jar – I used a wide-mouthed Ball mason jar and it worked out fine!
- paper trimmer – This is optional but I HIGHLY recommend a paper trimmer to more quickly cut out all of the 150 questions
- scissors – You will need regular scissors to cut out the tag to go on the jar… There are 6 different cute tag options for you to choose from!
- ribbon and hole punch – To tie the tag onto the jar.
Step 3: Cut the pillow talk questions for couples out – This is where the paper trimmer comes in handy! Just cut the questions out on the borders. *TIP – If you’re going to Mod Podge the questions onto craft sticks, then be sure to cut on the inside of the border so that the slips of paper fit on the craft sticks – Head to my Date Jar post for more directions!
Step 4: Put your pillow talk question jar together – Once your questions are cut out, you can put your pillow talk jar together! Just place the strips of paper into the jar and set it on your bedside table. You’re all prepared for endless nights of quality conversation!

Here’s what my finished DIY Pillow Talk Jar looks like… It’s so cute, and I can’t wait to go through the questions!

pulling a pillow talk question out of a jar

Free Printable Pillow Talk Questions

Want to make your own jar of pillow talk questions to keep on your nightstand for some good quality conversation with your husband? Just click the link below to download the list of pillow talk questions for couples! A new window will open in Dropbox (where the file is stored) and you’ll be able to download or print the questions from there.

Click HERE for the Printable Pillow Talk Questions

And if you LOVED this easy marriage idea, then be sure to check out some of these other posts:

100 Questions to Ask Your Spouse – If your daily conversation is “blah”, then add some of these questions into your dinner dates or road trips! Great to reconnect with your spouse!
100 Good Morning Messages for Him – Texts to put a smile on your husband’s face in the AM!
Not So Newlywed Game Questions – A SUPER fun printable game to play on a date night at home!

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