Affirming your husband through words of affirmation for him is a powerful way to show your love and appreciation. Read on for examples of affirmations for your husband and ideas for how to use them in your marriage.
You may have picked up on the fact that I think my husband is the greatest thing since sliced bread.
Which is kind of ironic, given his profession. (For those of you that are new around here, he has a bread sales and delivery route.)
But all talk of multi-grain rye aside, my love and respect for my husband grow stronger every day, and I can honestly say that the feeling is mutual. I am his biggest cheerleader, and I know he supports me unconditionally.
I think the key to our happiness has a lot to do with the fact that I continually show him how much I appreciate his efforts to ensure our family’s happiness. Of course, this doesn’t mean I shower him with back rubs and romantic dinners every day.
Instead, I am simply intentional with my words and actions to show him that I love him for who he is.
Now, you may be asking, “Why is being my husband’s #1 fan such a big deal?”
I think for me, it has to do with all of the messages out there that wives and mothers are the only ones who sacrifice for their jobs and marriages. And there’s an underlying message that husbands and fathers don’t hold up their end of the bargain.
That’s not how I view my marriage, and I hope it’s not how you feel about yours either. Marriages are partnerships based on mutual respect, and they can’t grow if either person feels taken advantage of.
An easy yet powerful way to praise your husband for all he brings to the table is through daily affirmations, especially if your husband’s Love Language happens to be “Words of Affirmation“.
I’ve discussed the power of positive affirmations before, and I really want to emphasize just how impactful they can be on your relationship with your husband.
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The Impact of Affirmations in Marriage
You’ve probably heard of words of self-affirmation before and their potential to increase focus, build confidence, and increase one’s sense of self-worth.
I firmly believe in the positive power of self-affirmation, and I make a point to include these in my daily habits because they genuinely do make a difference in my life. Who doesn’t like to feel encouraged and uplifted every day?
However, the kind of affirmation I’m referring to here is closer to Dr. Terri L. Orbuch’s definition from her book 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage From Good to Great.
In her book, Dr. Orbuch discusses affective affirmations, which she describes as
“offering words, gestures or acts that show your spouse that he or she is noticed, appreciated, respected, loved or desired.”
Dr. Terri L. Orbuch
Orbuch conducted a research study of hundreds of couples, and she actually discovered that husbands desired positive affirmation the most from their wives. The effects of this type of encouragement did wonders for their self-confidence and overall marital relationships.
I can easily understand this connection because my husband is my best friend. He looks to me for love, appreciation, and support. This is something that husbands don’t receive from their male friends. And let’s be honest, that would be a little weird…
We all know that words can make or break us, so it’s logical that affective affirmations can have this type of transformational effect on a marriage.
Different Kinds of Words of Affirmation for Him
Not all affirmations for your husband are the same because different situations call for a variety of positive words. You have to read the room.
For example, it would be very awkward for my husband if I showed up at one of his games with a cardboard sign declaring my undying attraction to his butt. Now I’m getting ideas…
On a more serious note, there are many categories of affirmations, and it’s nice to have a selection so that you can be a source of praise and positivity every day.
Here are some of the main categories of words of affirmation and how each can be useful:
Affirmations of Encouragement
Whether your husband has been burning the midnight oil to achieve a promotion at his job or building you a raised bed garden, affirmations of encouragement both validate his efforts and cheer him on.
After all, future success often builds upon former achievements, and his confidence will grow with your words of encouragement. And you’ll have a snazzy new setup for your tomato plants!
Affirmations of Love
You may think that your husband always knows how much you love him, which is probably true. However, clearly communicating your love and affection on a daily basis only serves to reinforce this bond.
Think about how good you feel when he randomly tells you that he loves and adores you. When you respond with similar loving affirmations, it makes his day. Trust me!
And if you feel like you’re just not good with words, then I can still help you express your love with positive affirmations! Check out this post for 31 reasons why I love my husband, and get tips for how to write your own list!
Affirmations of Attraction
Verbalizing your attraction for your husband can be uncomfortable at first, especially if this isn’t something that comes naturally to you. Sending sexy texts or sticking an intimate note in his lunch bag is a vulnerable move for many women, but this is where trust comes into play.
I know that this would make my husband’s day, and he would keep my words private, and affirmations of attraction can really turn up the heat in your marriage! There’s absolutely nothing wrong with communicating to your husband that you want to be intimate with him.
Affirmations of Perseverance
My husband and I have had many ups and downs in our marriage, whether financial, personal, or otherwise. And I make it a point to praise him for his hard work and efforts to provide for our family.
He constantly works to be a better husband, father, and man of God, and I know it’s not always easy for him. There are times when I’m sure he would much rather relax on the couch after a long day than get sucked into a fake tea party with imaginary cookies. He pretends like a champ, though!
Affirmations of perseverance can motivate him to keep going, to persevere through the hard times. This type of words of affirmation are especially important when you know he’s had a rough day or he’s facing a really difficult work project.
Affirmations of Gratitude
Did you know that expressing gratitude towards someone is a mutually beneficial act? That means that it makes you happier as well as the person you’re thanking. That’s a win-win in my book.
Whether he’s bathing the dog after an unfortunate skunk encounter or putting the kids to bed so that you can get extra work done, giving your husband affirmations of gratitude is a must.
When your husband feels appreciated for the sacrifices he makes, it only works to increase the effort he puts into his everyday activities and relationships.
Ways to Give Affirmations to Your Husband
There’s really no wrong way to give your husband daily affirmations. You know him best, so here are just a few suggestions:
Verbally
Whether you’re starting the day off with encouraging words or whispering affirmations of attraction into his ear after tucking the kids into bed, speaking them out loud can do wonders for your relationship.
Again, would you prefer that your husband verbally tell you that you’re sexy or send an email? I think that one’s a no-brainer.
Text Messages
While you’re out running errands and your husband is at work, shoot him a quick text expressing gratitude for something he did that day. Or send him an encouraging affirmation if he’s been putting in extra hours to support the family.
Texts let him know that you’re thinking about him but also that you respect that he’s in a professional space.
You can also check out this post for funny, flirty, and romantic text messages to send your husband, like this one:
Sticky Notes
I may or may not be slightly obsessed with sticky notes, and my dear husband just indulges my whims and ignores the “secret” drawer I store them in. If you’re like me, grab a few and place them around the house where your husband will see them.
This is an excellent way to change up the way you communicate affirmations to him, and he may even get a chuckle out of the ones you put in his underwear drawer.
I even have some printable love notes for him that you can check out for some funnier notes of love and encouragement, like this one:
50 Words of Affirmation Examples for Your Husband
So now that you’ve seen the power of words of affirmation for him, what should you actually say?
Here are 50 examples of words of affirmation for him:
Encouraging Affirmations
- I’m your biggest fan.
- You’re capable of so much success.
- I support you in all things.
- I believe in you.
- You’re a wonderful father to our kids.
- I’m in your corner.
- No one is better for this than you.
- You’re the rock of this family.
- Your patience is a gift.
- You’ve got this, babe.
Loving Affirmations
- Your love is the greatest gift.
- I love you.
- Your love is all I need.
- Thank you for loving me.
- You’re my best friend.
- I appreciate your loving words.
- Your kindness is what I love most about you.
- Your love brings our family together.
- Your laugh lights up my day.
- It’s impossible not to smile with you around.
Affirmations of Attraction
- Your (insert here) is my favorite part of your body.
- I’m more attracted to you every day.
- You’re the love of my life.
- Your kisses leave me breathless.
- I love being physically intimate with you.
- I love it when you…
- You make me feel beautiful.
- You’re sexy when you…
- Your (insert here) really turns me on.
- You look so handsome today.
Affirmations of Perseverance
- You can do this.
- You’re going to be amazing at (insert here).
- I’ve noticed how hard you’ve worked.
- You can do anything you set your mind to.
- I admire how hard you work for our family.
- You’re an excellent example for our children.
- I’m with you every step of the way.
- I’m so proud of your progress so far.
- You have my full love and support.
- You’re strong enough to conquer anything.
Affirmations of Gratitude
- Thank you for putting our family first.
- Your patience with our children is a gift.
- I couldn’t do life without you by my side.
- Being your wife is such a blessing.
- Thank you for being a Godly man.
- I appreciate it when you (insert here) without being asked.
- You’re such a gentleman.
- Thank you for making me feel loved.
- You’re a great teacher.
- You did a fantastic job with (insert here).
Other Ways to Show Your Husband Love
Words of affirmation are great, and they’re a big part of making your husband feel loved and appreciated. But what if his Love Language is “Quality Time” or “Acts of Service”? It’s important to know what types of words or actions make your husband feel the most loved.
You can check out this post for 50 ways to show your husband that you love him for other ideas, or even try a 30 Day Marriage Challenge with a printable calendar of nice things you can do for your husband each day for a month:
And be sure to check out some of my other popular posts on marriage:
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- 10 Healthy Marriage Habits to Reach “Relationship Goals” Status
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